By Cheryl Strayed and Steve Almond
My boyfriend and I have been around in a monogamous relationship for over per year. Recently, we snooped on their phone and learned that heвЂ™d been on a niche site where males obtain other males for intercourse. My boyfriend replied among the advertisements in visual terms that heвЂ™s never ever combined with me personally. It didnвЂ™t look just as if any such thing transpired beyond that, yet We feel stuck.
I did sonвЂ™t confront him, but We chatted to him about sex and told him exactly just how normal it absolutely was to fantasize. He asked me personally if I became wanting to make sure he understands I became bisexual. We stated that We just desired to be with him, and then he stated he felt exactly the same way. He had been therefore at ease during our discussion that we thought him, but IвЂ™m terrified that heвЂ™s not able to let me know the reality because heвЂ™s buried it. IвЂ™m afraid heвЂ™ll get farther and cheat on me personally. IвЂ™m afraid he desires to be with males (though i am aware that taking a look at a website similar to this does not make him gay as well as bisexual). We donвЂ™t want to reduce him. IвЂ™d rather love him through this than be without him. Most of us have actually intimate dreams, right?
I understand youвЂ™re thinking i ought to speak to him, but I canвЂ™t. We donвЂ™t think heвЂ™s prepared to face it, and IвЂ™m maybe maybe not willing to admit my snooping. IвЂ™ve decided all i could do is keep carefully the lines of interaction available.